When a baby is born, it suddenly becomes the most important thing in its parents’ lives. While this is a natural and wonderful impulse, it does mean that things like romance, friendship,  and intimacy often take a back seat. However, for your own sake, as well as for the new baby’s, it is important for you to seek ways to nurture the emotional connection that brought you together.

Heal Your Energy

Having a new baby at home is not only physically trying, it’s emotionally exhausting. It’s easy to become overwhelmed, which can lead you and your spouse to focus only on your most troubling thoughts and emotions rather than your new bundle of joy. But you don’t have to let these feelings control your life. By scheduling a Radical Reconnective Healing appointment with Zarilove, you’ll be able to better understand the roots of your fears, anxiety, and stress so you can form new neurological pathways that will help you live more positively and confidently.

In addition, be sure the energy in your home is conducive to healthy spiritual living. Simple acts like burning sage and improving your home’s feng shui will help create an atmosphere that you, your spouse, and your child can all harmoniously thrive in.

Keep Up Intimacy

There are several reasons why a new mother might feel nervous about the idea of physical intimacy, from their changed body to just sheer exhaustion. However, regular physical contact is crucial to maintain an emotional connection, so it’s important to talk about these feelings openly. This can help your spouse tailor their touch to your needs, or at least make them understand why your intimacy needs to take other forms.

Check In Regularly

“Checking in” is the art of making a habit out of healthy communication. Set a regular check-in routine that you can stick to, even with the new baby. A set of weekly questions about your feelings is a good place to start, and you can also do a condensed version at the end of the day.

Show Your Appreciation

Everybody needs to feel appreciated, and this becomes even more crucial when you are doing the terrifying, exhausting, and often thankless task of caring for a newborn. According to Fatherly, psychologists believe that small, regular acts of recognition are crucial in a marriage. Every time you see your spouse do a great job with the baby, say something.

Be a Team

As new parents, you’re not always going to agree on the way to do things, and the stress of parenthood will make any conflict more strained. During these times, it is important to remember to act as a team. Always try to arrive at the same place, only have parenting discussions when you are calm, and as the child grows older, make sure to present a unified front.

Have a Sense of Humor

Research has shown the importance of laughter and humor in relationships. Couples who laugh together stay together, and this shared sense of humor becomes an invaluable tool throughout parenthood. Having to wake up for the fifth time in a night to soothe a crying baby is never going to be funny, but it will be more bearable if you can laugh about it together the next morning.

Get a Hobby

It’s important to maintain a sense of who you are outside of your role as a parent, and nurturing a hobby is a great way to do that. Try hobbies that can easily be incorporated into the routine of a stay-at-home parent, like gardening, writing, crafting, or just listening to interesting podcasts. You could even try a hobby together as a couple to bring you closer together.

Do Go to Bed Angry

You have heard it a million times: whatever you do, never go to bed angry with each other. Well, it turns out that may not be such good advice. According to Reader’s Digest, studies have shown that sleep deprivation can make conflicts between couples significantly worse. Focus on getting as much sleep as you both can, and then talk things out in the morning.

Raising a child is a hard job, but remember you are not doing it alone. The more you work to stay connected, the more you will be able to rely on each other through the challenges of parenthood. Don’t forget the things that drew you to each other in the first place — chances are they will be the things that help you be great parents.

For more ideas on how you and your loved ones can live a more peaceful and enlightened life, contact Zari, founder of Zarilove, to learn how her services as a Light Worker, Kundalini-Yoga-Tantra Teacher, and Trauma Therapist can help you achieve power, pleasure, and peace.

By guest blogger April Meyers